Comments on: Anonymity and Trust … Are They Mutually Exclusive? http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/ Thu, 08 Jan 2009 18:20:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Nora Daugherty http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-24359 Nora Daugherty Thu, 15 Mar 2007 03:39:43 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-24359 Hello, Moof, You are a real wonder! What you have to say rings so true. How did you ever get so wise? Love you, Nora Hello, Moof,

You are a real wonder! What you have to say rings so true.
How did you ever get so wise? Love you, Nora

]]> By: It's me, T.J. http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21679 It's me, T.J. Thu, 15 Feb 2007 04:10:18 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21679 Happy Valentine's Day Moof! Happy Valentine’s Day Moof!

]]> By: Vijay http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21332 Vijay Sun, 11 Feb 2007 14:36:55 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21332 An excellent thoughtful and well expressed post. You've done it again!! You disappear for a long stretch, like some sage who has gone up the mountains to meditate & reflect on the purpose of life... Then you appear one fine day to share with the rest of us the wisdom that you have gained. <blockquote>"The issue here isn’t anonymity - we’re all anonymous to a degree in blogs - the core consideration is trust, and how far to take that trust. Sometimes you reach out to someone, and when you bring your hand back, it’s full of wonderful things - friendship, understanding, compassion.."</blockquote> I was lucky that when I reached out I found you first and my hands came back full. Dear Moof, Thank you. An excellent thoughtful and well expressed post.

You’ve done it again!!

You disappear for a long stretch, like some sage who has gone up the mountains to meditate & reflect on the purpose of life…

Then you appear one fine day to share with the rest of us the wisdom that you have gained.

“The issue here isn’t anonymity - we’re all anonymous to a degree in blogs - the core consideration is trust, and how far to take that trust. Sometimes you reach out to someone, and when you bring your hand back, it’s full of wonderful things - friendship, understanding, compassion..”

I was lucky that when I reached out I found you first and my hands came back full.

Dear Moof, Thank you.

]]> By: Neill Neill http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21295 Neill Neill Sat, 10 Feb 2007 16:25:41 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21295 Dear Moof, I read your post a couple of days ago when we first met on MyBlogLog.com. I appreciate your treatment of the dilemma a professional faces every day. (BTW I am unfamiliar with whatever happened with Dr. A, so if I offend anyone, please know that it's inadvertent.) I made a personal decision a long time ago that I would not be anonymous--what you see is what you get--and being "Dr. Neill Neill" has had some funny twists. I'm open with clients; I want them to know me as a person, not just as a psychologist. In my experience <em>being is more important that doing</em> in facilitating emotional/spiritual healing. I nevertheless am very conscious of boundaries. I had a client once who was horrified when he found out I had been a janitor for 10 years in my youth. The mystique of the Psychologist had been shattered in his mind! I have a lot of experience with addictions: personal, family, and professional. I found a couple of addiction-related forums, and as usual I registered as myself. Then I offered encouragement to someone in the forum who was dealing with addiction. I got emails from the administrators to but out. Their messages were that since I was a professional, I would be limited to reading the posts, or if I wanted to take part, I would have to register anonymously and hide my identity... I don't go there anymore. I know that deciding to be one person, no matter what the context, is one person's approach, but living as one person has served me well for several decades now. Life has surely been simpler with one identity. But be clear: my path may not be another's best choice. Thank you, Mouf, and keep up the good work. Love and blessings, Neill Dear Moof,
I read your post a couple of days ago when we first met on MyBlogLog.com. I appreciate your treatment of the dilemma a professional faces every day. (BTW I am unfamiliar with whatever happened with Dr. A, so if I offend anyone, please know that it’s inadvertent.)
I made a personal decision a long time ago that I would not be anonymous–what you see is what you get–and being “Dr. Neill Neill” has had some funny twists. I’m open with clients; I want them to know me as a person, not just as a psychologist. In my experience being is more important that doing in facilitating emotional/spiritual healing. I nevertheless am very conscious of boundaries.

I had a client once who was horrified when he found out I had been a janitor for 10 years in my youth. The mystique of the Psychologist had been shattered in his mind!
I have a lot of experience with addictions: personal, family, and professional. I found a couple of addiction-related forums, and as usual I registered as myself. Then I offered encouragement to someone in the forum who was dealing with addiction. I got emails from the administrators to but out. Their messages were that since I was a professional, I would be limited to reading the posts, or if I wanted to take part, I would have to register anonymously and hide my identity… I don’t go there anymore.

I know that deciding to be one person, no matter what the context, is one person’s approach, but living as one person has served me well for several decades now. Life has surely been simpler with one identity. But be clear: my path may not be another’s best choice.

Thank you, Mouf, and keep up the good work.

Love and blessings,
Neill

]]> By: Chrysalis Angel http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21129 Chrysalis Angel Thu, 08 Feb 2007 01:29:21 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21129 Dr. A. has returned! You can't keep a good man (or woman) down. So glad he didn't let them shoo him off. Dr. A. has returned! You can’t keep a good man (or woman) down. So glad he didn’t let them shoo him off.

]]> By: Sid Schwab http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21120 Sid Schwab Wed, 07 Feb 2007 23:39:35 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21120 Long time no be..... It's an interesting subject. The whole blogging thing and people's reaction to it is so complex. I blog under my name, because originally I wanted to have a place to mention my book (having gotten into a little trouble for posting comments on others'sites...) Were it not for that, I'm sure I'd be anonymous. I've been around enough now to have gotten a few pretty nasty comments (which I deleted) which let me to wonder about the true-identity thing. One can only wonder about people who have the need personally (and anonymously) to attack others. It's a sickness of some sort. But then again, so is blogging... Long time no be…..

It’s an interesting subject. The whole blogging thing and people’s reaction to it is so complex. I blog under my name, because originally I wanted to have a place to mention my book (having gotten into a little trouble for posting comments on others’sites…) Were it not for that, I’m sure I’d be anonymous. I’ve been around enough now to have gotten a few pretty nasty comments (which I deleted) which let me to wonder about the true-identity thing. One can only wonder about people who have the need personally (and anonymously) to attack others. It’s a sickness of some sort. But then again, so is blogging…

]]> By: ipanema http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21030 ipanema Tue, 06 Feb 2007 09:07:58 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21030 Wait...I'm lost. What happened? I can see Dr. A up there. The last time I went there, I commented once about his video blog. I'll better go again. <i>Anonymity is nothing by itself. It’s only what we make of it - or do with it. Sometimes though, what we choose to do with it can be really ugly.</i> Very well said. Good post! Can anyone enlighten me? my email : masai_kenya[at]yahoo[dot]com Thanks. Wait…I’m lost. What happened? I can see Dr. A up there. The last time I went there, I commented once about his video blog.

I’ll better go again.

Anonymity is nothing by itself. It’s only what we make of it - or do with it. Sometimes though, what we choose to do with it can be really ugly.

Very well said. Good post!

Can anyone enlighten me? my email : masai_kenya[at]yahoo[dot]com

Thanks.

]]> By: Health-Psych http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21005 Health-Psych Tue, 06 Feb 2007 02:20:36 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-21005 Excellent post, Moof. Think you said it for all of us. Excellent post, Moof. Think you said it for all of us.

]]> By: Chuck http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-20799 Chuck Mon, 05 Feb 2007 04:15:03 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-20799 I enjoyed your post about the dynamics of trust. I see a parallel in how people blame the media for society's various ailments... Perhaps the blame lies not in the proliferation of untrustworthy sources of information, but in the lack of personal responsibility in adopting a healthy skepticism. P.S. I'm a new blogger myself and I was wondering if you'd be willing to take a peek and offer some suggestions. Thanks! I enjoyed your post about the dynamics of trust. I see a parallel in how people blame the media for society’s various ailments… Perhaps the blame lies not in the proliferation of untrustworthy sources of information, but in the lack of personal responsibility in adopting a healthy skepticism.

P.S. I’m a new blogger myself and I was wondering if you’d be willing to take a peek and offer some suggestions. Thanks!

]]> By: Deb http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-20743 Deb Sun, 04 Feb 2007 22:26:47 +0000 http://moof.blogsplot.net/2007/02/03/anonymity-and-trust/#comment-20743 Great post. Hits the nail on the head. I think it is terrible when someone is blogging anonymously gets "outed". The crossing of boundaries is reprehensible, to say the least. Great post. Hits the nail on the head. I think it is terrible when someone is blogging anonymously gets “outed”. The crossing of boundaries is reprehensible, to say the least.

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