Comments on: Breathe Dad! Breathe!

By: Moof

Moof — Fri, 19 May 2006 02:39:46 +0000

Stephanie, thank you for visiting me and leaving a comment, and for your kindness.

You’re right - no matter what age you are, the loss is still so difficult. Well said. Love them so very much while you have them … study the way they move, the timbre of their voices … the little “looks” that set them apart from others. Those are the things you’ll get to keep of them.

Don’t be a stranger.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Fri, 19 May 2006 01:33:33 +0000

Your story reminded me of a book I read…it was so touching. I often think about the day when I will experience losing a parent, and I think no matter what your age the loss is still so difficult. Thanks for writing your story.

By: Moof

Moof — Thu, 18 May 2006 13:14:53 +0000

Welcome to my blog, Mama Mia. Yes, he was a great guy … even though he’d be 103 now, it would still be too soon to lose him. Thank you for leaving a comment. Please visit me again.

By: Mama Mia

Mama Mia — Thu, 18 May 2006 13:03:35 +0000

Moof, my deepest sympathy on your loss. Clearly the pain is no less at 19 years and that speaks stongly to what a special man your Dad was.

Mama Mia

By: Moof

Moof — Thu, 18 May 2006 12:06:55 +0000

Thank you for visiting, Difficult Patient! Both of my Dads are gone now. We lost my father in law 1 year ago in April. He was as precious to me as my own Dad … and had been my “ally and partner in crime” for many years. It doesn’t matter how old you get, you never seem to outgrow the need for the love and presence of a parent.

Thank you for the kind words. Don’t be a stranger.

By: difficult patient

difficult patient — Thu, 18 May 2006 04:15:32 +0000

Okay, I’m crying now . . .I just can’t imagine losing my dad (either one). Moof, he isn’t really gone, not really . . .

By: Moof

Moof — Thu, 18 May 2006 03:14:02 +0000

Dr. Hebert, thank you. That was beautiful.

The imagery of seeing an elderly person as a infant is one I’ve also entertained. I try to imagine what they are really like, underneath the accumulated years.

It’s very true that you never get over losing someone you love. There’s a huge empty void that just never goes away, and that nothing else can fill. Again, like arthritis, sometimes you manage it … sometimes it manages you.

“Even when it hurts, there is something divine about loving another person.”

That was real poetry. Thank you again.

By: mchebert

mchebert — Wed, 17 May 2006 17:34:02 +0000

Sometimes, when I see an elderly person in a bed in the hospital, I stop and think, that was somebody’s little girl or boy once. It is hard to imagine a 90 year old on her mother’s knee, but certainly it was the case. It gives me some perspective.

The funny thing about losing a loved one is that you never really truly get over it. When I was young I thought the pain must go away sometime. It doesn’t. You just learn how to manage it — kind of like arthritis. I know people that I have lost, and I miss them every day. Never stops. That’s life I guess. On the bright side, it does mean that we really, truly, do love and cherish that person. Even when it hurts, there is something divine about loving another person.

By: Moof

Moof — Wed, 17 May 2006 02:44:29 +0000

Thank you TJ! I do, ineed, have some wonderful memories!

By: It's me, T.J.

It's me, T.J. — Tue, 16 May 2006 03:06:05 +0000

I’m sorry for the loss and your pain.

I’m glad you have the wonderful memories.